My final, and possibly my most important lesson was that I will not be able to save all of my students. Prior to student teaching, I had an idealized hope of my classroom. No matter the student, no matter the circumstance, no matter what lengths I had to go to, I will be able to help all of my students. I even went into student teaching with that same mindset. Unfortunately, or possibly fortunately depending on how you look at it, my mindset of “saving all of the children” changed this year.
I was teaching eleventh grade American Literature. This was at the beginning of the semester. I was still getting a feel for all of my students. Who were the over achievers, who were the class clowns, who were the talkative students. I also made it my goal to identify the underachievers, and figure out how to change them. Fortunately, this strategy worked for a couple students. I would bond with the student, and from there it would be easier to work with the student on improving their work ethic. This gave me a tremendous amount of hope that you can help students. It won’t be easy, it will take time, but it can be done. Then I focused my attention on Terrell.
Terrell was a student with Emotional Behavior Disorder. He was notorious for cursing out, and even physically assaulting, both students and teachers. Initially after hearing his intimidating track record, I was very hesitant to intervene. What if he curses me out? What if he assaults me? I was letting my mind run away with all of the possibilities. Eventually, I decided that the pros outweighed the cons. What if I’m the only teacher that tries to reach out to him because of his reputation? I could really make a difference.
Things started off well with Terrell. Surprisingly, we bonded. We had similar experiences in life, which made him a little more open to me and my attempts to improve his work ethic. However, it seems like my words of encouragement went in one ear and out of the other. He was still open to talking to me about things that were going on with him, but he would never attempt to change his behavior in school. I figured that I was making somewhat of a positive impact on Terrell. At least in the time that I started working with him, he had no behavior issues. That was until he threatened and attempted to assault my teacher.
He was of course suspended for his actions. Despite the severity of the situation, I figured that this should not overshadow his progress. He had gone two months without any behavioral issues. That should count for something, shouldn’t it? Unfortunately, shortly after returning back to school from his suspension, Terrell was given another ten days of suspension for skipping school. I was devastated that Terrell had ruined what we both worked so hard on.
I confided in my CT about my feelings. She told me that while she noticed and applauded my efforts, she knew that it was a battle I wasn’t going to win. She told me that it is our natural instincts as teachers to want to reach each student. She continued by saying that while I should try my hardest with all students, I have to learn when I have done all that I can.